Does your affection go to the right person?

I have no idea, why love is always be the hottest conversation topic around me. Well, everybody does I guess. You know, every love story I've heard (or even I've been in) has made me fall into a deep realization that behind that little spelling word and simple name, love has a huge and complex meaning.

I believe we all had been into this phase: crush on and being crushed on, like and being liked, love and being loved. But the most important thing is... is that 'affection stuffs' behind those words go to the right person, right moment, right situation, right emotion and right ratio? Let me tell you something. Sometimes affection goes to the wrong direction and doesn't match well with -i don't know how to say but maybe it's the right phrase: our obsession.

Couple of weeks a go, I went to Bandung and met some of my best girl friends. Maybe you can guess what the main topic of our conversation on this 'girls talk' is (beside the other -not important to be mentioned stuffs-). Yeahh... all of our conversation conclude to a single word: LOVE. My little sweet bunny teeth with long black haired girl friend has been in a complicated relationship with her brother's best friend for about more than 10 months without an explicit commitment. Until last week, she was still in a big confuse and curiosity about her future relationship with that guy. My other lovely girl friend with a cute and sophisticated style has been in a relationship with a really nice guy for about 2 years till now, but so scare to death realizing her 'not healthy manner' of relationship. And me... humm.. well, I've been in a dilemma situation because of my confusion on this: what if I got who I wanted but not who I needed- or got who I needed but not who I wanted. (But hey, never mind... don't give a damn on me anyway because I don't want to puke up my love story to all of you guys, ha-ha...)

Then, the first thing we tried to think is- Does our affection go to the right person?

Two days after, I met my boy friend (not boyfriend) - a bald, tall and thin guy with a hilarious attitude who has been so close to me since I was 18. He told me that he was still can’t help him self for not to apologize his ex- girlfriend. Even worst than like The Corrs said, that f**king ex- girlfriend is not forgiven, and still not forgotten. He had been in a deep love with my former Junior High School friend for more than 5 years, until she cheated on him. Me, my self, was really surprised when I heard the real story for details 10 months a go, and still- believe me- I still don’t believe of what my lovely Junior High School friend did when he repeated the whole story that day. God, cheating can’t be forgiven- I agreed. A sweet lovely girl could become so mean too.

Then, the first thing I tried to think is- Did his affection go to the right person?

I remembered that I’ve read the book titled “He’s just not that into you”- a book written by Sex and the City staffers Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. I read that book by my partner’s reference- she said this book is so inspiring for either single or taken girl. Then, we both call it as a ‘bible’ of love, ha-ha. What I am going to say is, I realized (and getting more realized) that if our affection goes to the right person, we wouldn’t be worried for everything we faced on. Yes, there’s lot of questions struggling in our mind- what guaranteed us that our affection go to the right person, and how could we convince ourselves that this person is the right one?

“Well, the only person you can control in a relationship is you, but the only one you can guarantee is- God knows who the best person for you is.”

So, this is the right time to reflect and ask to your self… Does your affection go to the right person?